D has finally graduated to his own room. It was not an easy task, to say the least to have him go through this change. We are still struggling with it.
We have been meaning to decorate his room so that he is motivated to call it his own and actually start using it. But with a hectic summer and a flurry of guests, somehow it never got done until now. Thanks to my brother- in-law and his wife who nudged and inspired me to finally take some action.
Hence, last weekend, went shopping and got all the necessary paraphernalia to get the theme of the room going. What is the theme? Yep, you guessed it…Spider man! So now he has a Spider man duvet, pillows and sheets, the works. We decided not to paint the room and just get it done without further stalling the task of decorating. I wasn’t sure how it will turn out and I must admit, it looks pretty neat. A typical toddler’s room with superheroes and action figures popping out from all corners!
What was D's reaction? Elation!! Sheer joy which he displayed by jumping on his bed for the next 15 minutes!
He is mast, we are mast!
So he has been sleeping in his newly decorated room the past couple of days. Of course, we have had to join him in the middle of night when he wakes up crying and asks for us. I think we will have to do this for another couple of days before it really starts sinking in for him. But he is doing good for starters.
So out goes D and in comes A.
Off late she has been waking up in the middle of night and refusing to go back to sleep in her crib unless we bring her into bed with us. The transformation is just amazing. In crib, she screams, wails and tries to push herself against the railing and the minute we pick her up, bring her to our bed, she is peaceful and is ready to go back to sleep! Clever eh?
We actually enjoy having them with us at night. Tiny warm bodies, snuggling up, soft breathing, smooth skin and smell inducing sleep. But we realize that it this delay in making the transition which is causing some of the stress for D. Therefore, we decided that with A, she will be in the crib from day one, so that she gets used to it and starts accepting her room as hers. But somewhere along the way, empathy and emotions took over objectivity and practicality and we allowed A to join us as well. At some point, not very many weeks ago, we were four of us sleeping in one bed, with both of us literally hanging on to the edge of our bed trying not to fall off with the constant turns, tosses and sometimes even kicks and whacks!
Anyway, so that’s what been happening the past few days. Just as we said bye to one, the other one joined us. We were sad to see D leave but also happy that he is becoming independent and OK about giving us the room for privacy that we so desperately need as a couple – only to give it all up once again for his little sister.
Bye-bye privacy
Bye-bye intimacy
Hello turns, tosses and kicks!
I think I am gonna give up…..
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